Even better, they believe they could use that fetish to their advantage as a fool-proof strategy for getting laid or landing a date. Nothing negative about that, right?
When it happens to me, I feel cheapened and offended instead. You had no personal choice in the matter.
You grow up to be a handsome, confident man with various passions in life. After dating her for a few weeks, you meet her friends for the first time. All of her ex-boyfriends are Giants fans!
She moved to SF because there are so many of you here.
Details that seemed insignificant before begin to leap out at you now: How come she never asked you about your hobbies? Also, she did ask if you have any cute, single Giants-fan homies or cousins for her friends to go on a baseball date with.
The question that keeps lingering in your mind and unsettling your stomach is this: Does she really like me for who I am, or does she just have a Giants-fan fetish? Personal preferences in dating or sex are not the same thing as fetishes.
And I am supposed to feel complimented when those people are attracted to me? Being in love with the idea of someone without actually getting to know the person as an individual is unfair and disrespectful.
That is called prejudiced ignorance and a refusal to recognize me as a complex, real human being. Kellyor sexualizing a body part feet fetishism seems pretty prominent.
Also, I would like to think the participants of these sensual activities have a mutual agreement about doing so! Fantasies by definition are unrealistic, irrational and not meant to be sustained, while dreams are the hopes and high goals we strive for and then keep. We all have the right to be seen as more than one-dimensional characters, and we all deserve to have fulfilling relationships in which Asian women getting laid understand our multifaceted partners.
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